But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 11:3
In this verse, God gives us a divine order, an order in which every family should be.
God wants us all families to be in this order. Husband is the head of the family & Christ is the head of the husband & whole family. The children since they are coming from both the husband and wife they are also part of this family. This is the structure God endorses. The same system we can see in our Government. An individual cannot apply a ration card if he is with his father & mother but the moment he is married , he is a part of his own family.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
In this verse, God clearly says a man shall leave his father & mother which means now when they are married they are part of a new family which is recognized as a separate family by God.
From the above we can clearly see that Groom/ Bride’s father/ Mother/relatives are not part of the inner circle but outside . We have to clearly understand this structure because a lot of families are now influenced by others who are not the part of the inner family God recognizes and a today we see some families in various conflicts and some separated due to the influence of the extended family, relatives and friends.
From the above we may have a question do we not required to love our father/mother or others & take care of them? Yes, we need to love and take care of them but I have to love my wife more than all others.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:25,28
These verses clearly states that I have to love God more than anything in this world , but after God I have to love my wife & my children more than all others . This understanding allows us to make all things clearly in the family. Whether we live as a joint family or separately , this understanding clearly directs us how to solve any relationship issues which arise between our family and in laws or other relatives. A husband and wife should love and care for his father and mother but at the same time should understand the involvement of them in the family matters should be as an advice and not a command. Any conflicts in the extended family and in laws we should resolve with this understanding with prayer and guidance from the holy spirit.
The second is decision making.
The decision is to be made as a family by husband & wife by the guidance of God’s word. We can get the views of others but the decision is made by the two in the family
In one of the interviews with the CEO of google the audience asked how do you take crucial decisions related in the company . He replied being a CEO no small things come to me , but when it comes to me it is a crucial one ,I have all the views &outcomes from my subordinates and they leave it to me for taking the final decision.
Yes we have the views & guidance of our lovable families , well wishers , friends but the decisions should be made by the husband & wife only through prayer in God’s presence
Today a lot of families are facing many issues because the husband or wife loves their father/mother/friends or even pets nowadays & are influenced by them which disrupts the God’s divine order and makes us lose our peace & happiness in the families
Prayer
Father God I thank you for creating & making us to live in families . I bless each & every family that they are guided by your words and fulfill your purpose you have united them together, In Jesús name I pray, Amen
Sol.Leo