Genesis:2:18
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
God created the first family and gives the same promise for all that He gives us a suitable helper (Wife/Husband) for all His children. Yet we see people struggling or go wrong in choosing their life partner which is one of the life’s most important decision. I struggled on the same a few months back but God guided me to find my life partner according to His will.
The first thing people go wrong is from the things of the society which is Caste, religion and Social status. We attend many marriages; we see and hear things of the marriages of this age and all of it builds up a stronghold in our heart. We search according to our own expectations asking God to act according to our will in prayers rather than submitting to His perfect will.
A good relative of mine helped me to lose all my expectations and to submit to God’s will. When I sat in prayer to submit to submit to God’s will Holy spirit guided me how to pray. Jesus saved me and made me His child at the age of 29 just the age I was seeking a Bride for marriage. The prayer I did was simple, “ Lord I never asked what you want me to study or what job you want me to take and everything I asked according to my will. But Lord let your will be fulfilled in my marriage not mine”. Take away things in my heart and guide me according to your will. It took me days to submit to God’s will and Holy Spirit wiped away all in my heart leading me into His perfect will.
The second most people go wrong is conflicting with their parents on choosing their life partner. The view of the world now is “you know what you want not your parents”. It is portrayed in all forms in this society. When The Lord touched me and saved me I started growing in The Lord and was very fierce in my spirit. I was confident that The Holy Spirit would only speak to me rather than my parents who had just received their salvation from The Lord. So when we see brides I make my own decisions and later try to convince my parents that I am correct. One time I convinced my parents to take a long trip to go visit a bride claiming she would be the right match but when reached there we where is big shock and the meet didn’t go the way we expected. After we left the place there was a big quarrel with me and my parents because of the wrong decision I took. When I was heart broken The Holy spirit gave me this verse Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother and said if you are not going to obey your parents I am not going to guide you. The Holy Spirit said I will bring a bride only through your parents and not through me. I asked for forgives for the mistake I did and submitted to His will. God guided me to the perfect match. Lot of people argue and go against their parents in choosing their life partner. We should know that if it is from The Lord, He will make things happen. But if we are not going to listen to the word of God and not consult with our parents there is a chance we will deviate from God’s will and end up in a life of misery with the wrong choice. We cannot ask God to help and guide us when we don’t listen to His word and argue with our parents rather than to Honor and to obey our parents . Let us lose our expectations and to submit to God’s perfect will honoring and obeying our parents. The Lord says
“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you with my loving eye on you” Psalms 32:8
Prayer:
Our Heavenly father give us the grace to lose our expectations and to submit to your perfect will in finding our life partner for our marriages.
Sol.Leo